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Surviving Teenage Tantrums

A person begins their teenage life when they turn 13 years old and ends at 20 years old when they become an adult. A teenage tantrum is when teens lock horns with their parent, leading to conflict. This can happen suddenly and creates a divide between the parents’ and their offspring. What should you do?


Separate argument from meltdown

Arguments happen regularly, but to stop them translating into a teen meltdown:

  • Maintain a calm and peaceful presence, being strong without being threatening.
  • Ensure your body language reflects your willingness to listen.
  • Give your teenager personal space.
  • If an argument feels out of control, tell them that you are walking away and will come back later.

Is there a problem?

Getting teenagers to talk openly about what is bothering is hard. Many teens have rapid mood swings which is normal behaviour. However, it may be a sign of a serious problem such as bullying, drug taking or self-harm etc. Key to helping your teenager is getting them to talk to you about their worries.

  1. Start by assuming they have a good reason for doing what they do.
  2. Try not to assume you know what is wrong. Avoid asking "are you being bullied?"; instead, say “you do not seem yourself, and I wonder if I could help you?"
  3. Be clear you want to help them and reassure them that you will face problems together.
  4. Ensure that you are acting responsibly (e.g. your own drinking).
  5. Help teenagers think for themselves. Asking how smoking weed makes them feel the next day, encourages them to think about their actions.
  6. Try not to react to their angry outbursts.

Ultimately, help them feel safe, as teenagers often worry that telling a parent will make things worse. You need to be clear that you want to help and will not do anything they do not want you to.

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Important: if you are concerned about the physical or mental health of your teenager, speak to your GP or medical expert.


Date: 28 March 2021 by max robinson